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Recovering Attention

June 30th, 2010

Shelia

To increase the amount of attention you have available to invest in what you want, you may need to recover some that you’ve invested in other stuff (i.e. that phone call you’ve been meaning to make, that mess in the garage you’ve been meaning to sort through, that pile on your desk you’ve been meaning to file, the stories you have running on a repeat loop – yes! all of these eat up your available attention).

Here are a few questions to ponder…

1. What tasks are consuming my attention even though I’m not focusing on them specifically? (i.e. things needing to be done… filing, taxes, gardening, repairs, cleaning, apologies, thank you’s, etc.)

2. What stuff could I give away, discard, or return?

3. What needs repaired or discarded? (i.e. sewing that button on that shirt)

4. What stories do I have that I could let go of? (i.e. “I can’t believe she said that! Who does she think she is? The very nerve of her!” repeat… or “He said he would clean it before he returned it! Look at this mess! I’m never loaning him my stuff ever again!” repeat…)

Public storage is a booming business because our stuff fills every crack and crevice of our space. Have you ever cleaned out the garage or your closet and felt freer, lighter? That’s attention detaching from the stuff and returning to your attention bank account.

Ever finally made that call or said what was on your mind and felt energized? We spend more attention on those “I’m gonna” thoughts than you might imagine. Just do it or decide not to… either way you recover the attention (hint: the relief is in the decision).

Download this simple flowchart to help you organize your stuff. Use it when answering these questions (and others like them) to help you recover attention so you can re-invest it in what you want. The flowchart is based on David Allen’s book Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity and his system for getting out of your mind and managing your stuff more effortlessly…I highly recommend his book!

As you go through your day, notice what you give your attention to… you will likely be surprised just how little of it is what you want.

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What is an Attention Mentor?

June 19th, 2010

Shelia

Often times when people ask me what I do and I say, “I help people create a life they love,” they say, “Oh, you’re a Life Coach.”

I understand the mind’s tendency to associate new information with known information and so this is the logical association. The difference, however, is that there is actually specific training to become a Life Coach and they have a certain way of leading their clients to the results they seek that differ from what I offer as an Attention Mentor.

When I was deciding what to call the specific way I help people create a life they love, the definition for a mentor* seemed a better match to what I do, than a life coach*. Since my emphasis is on managing attention, I decided on Attention Mentor.

* mentor: a wise and trusted guide
* life coach: an advisor who helps people with problems, decisions, and goal attainment in daily life.

I’ve been studying and teaching how to create a life you love for over two decades and now base everything I teach on one simple formula:

Decide what you want and give that your attention.

Deciding is our ultimate power in this human experience. I devote the first chapter of my book, InJoy! The Decision is Yours, to the power of deciding, and I offer my Decide Process in my JATAT Guidebook in hopes of empowering people to decide more deliberately.

The importance of getting clarity about what you want to experience cannot be overstated. If you don’t know what you truly want, and most don’t, you have no focus. Without a focal point, managing your attention deliberately becomes a much greater challenge. Read my article, The Power of Clarity, for more on this subject.

Giving your attention to what you want, instead of what you don’t want and all the reasons you think you can’t have what you want, is the only way you will ever have what you want.

Your attention is your creative energy, whatever you give it to becomes more prominent in your life. Quantum physics is even demonstrating that the act of observing (i.e. directing attention toward) literally changes that which is observed…changing wave functions to particles and back to wave functions when attention is removed.

When attention is not managed deliberately, it becomes scattered and ineffective like the far reaches of a flashlight beam in the dark. But when attention is focused and directed deliberately (easier than you think), it becomes ultra-effective like a laser beam. Both the flashlight and the laser direct light, but one is much more focused than the other.

As an Attention Mentor, I can help you recover spent attention so you can reinvest it in what you want. I can teach you simple methods for letting go of all that holds your attention captive so you can empower that which you choose to experience instead of that which you resist.

Symptoms of poorly managed attention include (but are not limited to): ineffectiveness, boredom, frustration, exhaustion, procrastination, lack of motivation, lethargy, inertia, weight gain, accelerated aging, poor health, insomnia, fear, dread, anxiety, anger, resentment, divorce, loss of libido, etc.

Effects of deliberately managed attention include (but are not limited to): contentment, satisfaction, passion, happiness, clarity, joy, peace, compassion, right livelihood, positive outlook, self-esteem, accomplishments, success, fulfillment, etc.

The choice is yours…decide what you want and give that your attention. I can help.
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Tags: attention, attention mentor, decide, focal point, life coach, mentor, training

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Plastimology: The Science of Creating What You Want

June 18th, 2010

Shelia

You are the one creating your experience of life and, in fact, you are attracting what you experience as your life. Why not create what you want?

Plastimology™ is the science of applying an ideal to an existing reality in order to transform the current reality toward the ideal reality.

Plastimology takes into account…

- the power of deciding what you want,

- the power of your attention to empower what you observe,

- that thoughts change the chemical makeup of the body in the moment they are entertained,

- that everything is energy vibrating at different frequencies and higher frequencies have more power and freedom than lower frequencies,

- that like attracts like,

- that operating at the level of being (feeling) affects reality more directly and expediently,

- that our “job” in the creation process is to decide the “what” and allow the “how” to be attracted,

- that resistance attracts more of whatever is resisted,

- that asking questions leads to clarity,

- that we make up stories about reality and that our thoughts/stories about reality affect how we perceive reality.

Continually ask, “What would be ideal?” Evolve the description of the ideal over time with more detail added as it evolves.

Apply or overlay the image of the ideal to your current reality. The answer to the question “What would be ideal?” becomes the intention you project forward into your immediate future. Intention influences the creative potential of the quantum soup.

The mind makes no distinction between subjective reality and objective reality. Make changes in your subjective reality and know it’s the source of your objective reality. Deliberately blend that which is preferred with that which is perceived.

Let go of the “need” to change objective reality. Instead feed attention to what you prefer in your subjective reality.

Vibration attracts like vibrations in every case.

If you think about what you don’t want all the time, you will attract exactly that. It doesn’t matter whether you are deliberately or unconsciously creating your reality… you ARE creating your reality.

Why not create it deliberately and be, do and have more of what you want? You can! Learn more about Plastimology in my book InJoy! The Decision is Yours.

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Tags: attention, freedom, intention, life, power, reality, resistance, subjective, vibration

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The Power of Clarity

June 5th, 2010

Shelia

The importance of getting VERY clear about what you want cannot be over emphasized.

As the multiplicity of reality pulls our attention in every direction, having clarity about what is truly desired provides a focal point with which to direct our attention deliberately.

Without a focal point, directing attention becomes more of a challenge.

In Transcendental Meditation (TM), the student is taught to repeat a mantra, a specific word or sound. They are instructed to simply continue repeating the mantra until they become aware they are no longer repeating the mantra (i.e. the mind has trailed off in thought), at which time they simply start repeating the mantra again.

The idea is to give attention to the focal point, the mantra, and when attention wanders, you simply bring your attention back to the focal point. Without a focal point to return to, the mind is easily distracted.

This brings us back to the importance of clarity. When you are very clear about what you want and you make that your focal point, directing your attention becomes effortless.

One of the many benefits of practicing TM is the stabilizing of the quiet mind state. When the mind is provided with a focal point, it quiets down. As the mind becomes less distracted, the mind chatter falls away and the blissful quiet mind state is enjoyed.

Remember a time when you were so engrossed in what you were doing that everything else seemed to disappear and you enjoyed a contentment beyond that provided by the activity itself. This is the quiet mind state.

Athletes and musicians, to name a few, often refer to this as the “zone.” It’s a point where one experiences a comforting peace and inner silence even in the midst of a chaotic and loud stadium.

This is our natural state and is experienced on a consistent basis in our daily lives when we manage our attention deliberately and allow the mind to quiet down of its own accord.

Unfortunately for most, this state is only experienced in fleeting moments, if ever. Only a small percentage of people are even aware that this content and empowering state is available to them.

In the past, the quiet mind was only sought by those on an intense spiritual path. Today, it makes sense for anyone who wishes to enjoy contentment and peace while achieving extraordinary success in whatever endeavor they choose.

It’s not an either/or choice.

Although the application of the concept presents a challenge for most, the formula for creating a life you absolutely love is simple:

Decide what you want and give that your attention.

I offer free attention mentoring to do just this in my What You Want Challenge on www.ChangeYourMynd.com.

Creating an Attention Revolution one quiet mind at a time…
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As an Attention Mentor, Shelia Norling teaches simple methods of managing your attention and thoughts so you can create a life you love. Take her What You Want Challenge at www.ChangeYourMynd.com and she’ll mentor you free of charge! While you’re there, download her free JATAT Guidebook and learn a simple shift in perspective that allows you to have what you want, effective immediately.

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What You Want Wants You

June 5th, 2010

Shelia

Everything is energy. As Einstein said, “Matter is energy and energy is matter.” One universal law of energy is that like attracts like. This is true in every case.

What you want (i.e. are attracted to) wants you.

Okay, I hear some of you saying, “If that’s true, why don’t I have what I want?”

The universal law of attraction is very precise. Are you?

How clearly have you defined what you want? For example, if you say, “I want to have money.” Have you got very clear about having money or is it a vague idea you have of what might improve your situation? How do you feel about people who have money? Do you have concerns about managing large amounts of money? Are you concerned you won’t know who your friends are if you have money? These are just a few examples of doubts that can affect what you actually attract.

The first step in having what you want is knowing what it is.

This is such a simple and obvious observation that it is often too easily dismissed. I have found in my many years of explorations that the simpler something is, the closer it is to the truth.

So often in our search for a better life we continue to look outside ourselves for the magic bullet that will fix everything.

The simple truth is – what you seek you already have within you.

When defining what you want, it is helpful to recognize what feeling having it will give you. For example, what feeling will having money give you? Freedom? Security? Fun? These are great words but words are only symbols for the feeling. Take a moment to feel what it feels like in your body to have what you seek.

Feeling creates the vibrational frequency that will attract what you want.

Want a magic bullet? Skip right to feeling what it will feel like to have what you want and then increase the intensity and duration of the feeling. This will attract what you want into your life quicker than anything else.

How, you might ask, does one “increase the intensity and duration of the feeling?” Give it your attention.

Attention is your creative energy. What you put your attention on becomes more real – literally. Attention sustains reality; without it, that which was, ceases to exist.

I’ll leave you with this simple yet eye opening exercise. If you actually do it instead of just imagining it, it will reveal A LOT about your life and lead you toward that which you seek.

Step 1. Make a list of what you want.

Step 2. Make a list of all that you believe prevents you from having what you want.

Question: Which do you give more attention to – what you want or what you believe prevents you from having what you want?

I hope this has been helpful. I know it changed my life when I got more clear about what I really wanted. Deciding what you want is an ongoing process. You may find that as you create the life you prefer, what you want will evolve and grow and will likely change. If you get real honest and look real close, you might realize that what you are currently experiencing is the result of a wide variety of desires and beliefs and where you have put your attention.

It would be my great pleasure to share with you how to fine tune your results and expedite the process. Take my What You Want Challenge and I’ll mentor you free of charge!

May you realize all that you prefer.
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As an Attention Mentor, Shelia Norling teaches simple methods of managing your attention and thoughts so you can create a life you love. Take her What You Want Challenge at www.ChangeYourMynd.com and she’ll mentor you free of charge! While you’re there, download her free JATAT Guidebook and learn a simple shift in perspective that allows you to have what you want, effective immediately.